What can my 10 year old daughter tell her friends?

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What can my 10 year old daughter tell her friends?
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Hi everyone.
My 10 year old daughter pulls her eyelashes and eyebrows. She is getting a lot of questions from her friends at school and is embarrassed to tell them the truth. Does anyone have any advice for her?

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Hi,

I started around her age too (I am now 25) and also pulled my head hair, eyelashes & eyebrows; where people started to notice this and asked questions. Not until high school did I start to pencil in my eyebrows and eyeliner (still do). I did this to avoid getting asked about it a lot, but tried to make it as natural looking as I could. When people would ask me about it...as weird as it may sound I use to either say that I just had really light colored eyebrows (am naturally dirty-blonde hair) or would say that I had Alopecia because in my mind that sounded better (since that was something you can't control and what I had was something I caused.)

It wasn't until years later on that I had one friend I was comfortable telling and they use to help me when I was at school or hanging out; when urges came up and I'd want to start they'd either quietly nudge me to stop or hold my hands till I calmed down.

Hope this somewhat helps.

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I am 13 and and have had trichotillomania for 3 years. Two weeks ago I pulled out all of my eyebrows.
It is best to tell your friends. This gives you a peer to talk to. Also, make sure to inform the teachers of your daughter’s situation. They will be happy to help and divert attention off of your daughter when they are able to.

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I am 13 and and have had trichotillomania for 3 years. Two weeks ago I pulled out all of my eyebrows.
It is best to tell your friends. This gives you a peer to talk to. Also, make sure to inform the teachers of your daughter’s situation. They will be happy to help and divert attention off of your daughter when they are able to.

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My trich started in high school, and I told my friends who noticed (very few did because I got really good at using eyeliner to avert attention) that a medication I was on made them fall out. It was very believable. If they asked what kind of medication I told them it was blood pressure meds because I was currently on them for migraines and hair falling out was a side effect. No one ever questioned me and I never got made fun of for it.

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I told my friends my eyelashes and eyebrows were very weak so whenever I washed my face they snapped and left me with really short hairs you can’t see. Hope she’s okay. I know how hard it can be getting unwanted attention for something you try so hard to stop. Remind her that it does t matter what anyone says and she is beautiful no matter what anyone says if people start saying things. I know at that age I really wish someone had said that to me.

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Hi, I've had trich since i was 13, now i'm 27.
The only advice i could give you is to avoid encouraging your daughter to hide or lie about it. That's what i suffered from the most, and is the worst part of dealing with trichotillomania. That's what made me lose confidence about myself, avoid sometime socializing just to make sure i wouldn't have to deal with other people's looks.
It is only when i stopped hiding, started accepting myself, talking openly about it, and spending less time trying to hide the bald spots in my head, that trichotillomania suddenly vanished from my life at age 22 (you can read my story in the forum).
She should not build up an identification of herself with that condition, she's worth more than that, and her life shouldn't not turn around it. The more weight you give it, the heaviest it gets.