PULLING EYELASHES AND EYE BROWS

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PULLING EYELASHES AND EYE BROWS
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My daughter is only 12 years and has been pulling for 3 years. I have never seen her pull, the teachers never saw her pull, my ex never saw her pull, my BF never saw her pull...you get the idea. She says that it is from stress but we have been working at eliminating stress but she keeps pulling. I now think it has become a habit.
How do you help someone to stop pulling if they don't pull when they are around you or anyone else.
I am extremely concerned that she has already damaged her foilicals and that her hair will not grow back. She goes to the Jr. High in the fall and I am also concerned that the girls will start to bully her.
I have tried everything I can think of but nothing works and I am sure there are things that I have not tried yet.

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I have struggled with Trichotillomania since I was a young kid and I go through good periods and bad periods. For me it is strongly connected to anxiety and overthinking. Even if you removed all the stress in the world the anxiety and overthinking remain.

Anxiety medication has helped me, but you are right about it turning into a habit. You can start to do it without any thought at all. She needs to break the habit by replacing it with something that isn’t harmful. I try to slow down my thinking so that I’m aware of when I’m going to feel the compulsion. Then, I do something else instead. For example, a breathing exercise is helpful. I find that I can make the feeling go away by lightly scratching the area I want to pull. The compulsion feels like both a physical and mental itch for me so a lite scratch or rub will usually eliminate it.

I am also more in control when I speak openly with my husband about it and talk about my struggles rather than ignoring it and trying to resolve it on my own.

I hope this helps your daughter!

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hi pretty girl i hope you can learn to deal with these and help your daughter the same way I did with my girl . she is now 14 and is not just a pretty girl but happy , she stared to pull her eyelashes when she was 6 with no reason , it happens in an air plane she was watching a movie i was sleeping and she stared to touch her lashes and pull a few , the next week she pull again at school leaving a hole , i was in shock and very upset and i though that if she got scare she stoped, but didn't work she keep pulling leaving big holes or nothing at all .
for my and her dad was really hard knew that it was no cure , she went to the psychiatrist specialist who just make her and us accept her disorder, we weren't happy with the treatment at all .but finally understood that it was the best thing , every thing stared to be easy and relax at home basically normal it was so much easier to live knowing that acceptance was the way to star helping my girl , she never was bully at school and she never care for the way she looks more than me , when she was 12 she stared to pull her eyebrows and cover the holes with eyeliner , when she finally pull her last hair she stared to draw her brows and an eye liner , and it was hard to see our kid using so much make up but faster we understand that she was doing what she has to do to feel comfortable and confident and it works.
until now she became a pro doing make up drawing eyebrows and eye liner it was always a nice complement for her from random people and that help a lot with her self teem , my husband ended up buying her make for her. at the beginning of may she ask for fake eyelashes to try but honestly i wasn't sure , she is now in high school and i was scared if her eyelashes fall in front of people . any ways she stared to use it only weekends , but last week we went to florida to visit my family and she stared to used daily , she looks so beautiful and this week she stared to used at school and it is a success . my advance just acceptation to you daughter disorder and help her to look beautiful contact me at paolafranko@hotmail.com if you need to talk to me i hope my history help your girl .

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I understand her pain. I'm actually in the same shoes as her. I'm a 12 year old female who has struggled with Trichotillomania for about 2 years now. I go to public school everyday without covering it up. I wear no makeup and show the world my bald eyelids on a daily basis. Maybe you can help me get in touch with your daughter. I know personally that people who don't have Trich will never understand what we go through everyday. People who don;t understand just..can't help. I hate to break it to you because I also understand the love a mother has for her child. She just wants the best but sometimes that's not what your doing. People with Trichotillomania obviously won't pull in public. We are already self conscious enough, much less letting everyone else see us doing what we hate ourselves for.
For me pulling out my eyelashes just feels natural. Like scratching an itch. I wouldn't say I've ever been bullied. People ask and even though they are just curious, someone just mentioning my bald eyelashes is like a stab to my chest. I have good days and bad days. It's gotten to the point where I pull every day so that's not what I mean by good days and bad days. I mean good days and bad days emotionally. On the good days I just accept the fact that I will most likely never have that beautiful set of long thick eyelashes that I had two years ago. Although, on the bad days I spend hours stuck up in my room or staring in the bathroom mirror bullying myself and tormenting myself. I've learned to hate myself and honestly I think I'm uglier than everyone else just because they have eyelashes and I don't. There's so much more I could say about what Trich does to someone but I just can't put it into words. Please let your daughter read this. The best way to get over a bad day for me is to know I'm not alone. I hope she can relate to this. I'm here for you and your daughter. You can get back to me at "KylieCanRelate@gmail.com"