Embarrassed of my hair pulling

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Embarrassed of my hair pulling
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Okay so,

I've been in denial for a really long time about this problem but recently my hair pulling has gotten worse and I'm afraid people are going to notice..

A really long time ago, back when I was like 12 or something and before I knew my condition had a name, my mom made me go to therapy for it. Didn't help. All the therapist really did was tell me to wear a hat. Yeah. That'll help.

Now I'm married and expecting my first baby, and I think all the recent stresses in my life are the cause of my increase in pulling. I lie to people all the time about my pulling, tell them that my hair is just weird and grows awkwardly. I haven't even told my husband the truth about it. I'm so embarrassed by it and I don't want people to think a freak.

I know I need to stop and I try and stop myself but half the time I'm not even aware I'm pulling. It's to the point where I can't wear my hair up because my bald patch that's right smack on top of my head shows.

I thought maybe people on here would be able to help me get brave enough to tell someone, and get some help..

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Congratulations on your pregnancy! I told my husband about my TTM when we had been dating for a little less than a year. He was very nice and accepting of it. He is the only man I had ever been with that I told about my problem. At the time I had a full head of hair and hadn't been pulling for about 2 or 3 years. Now, 6 years into our marriage my pulling is as bad as it ever was. He is supportive, but I know he gets frustrated with my moods and my depression as a result of the TTM. I just started taking the NAC and Inositol. I really hope it gives me the motivation to get this under control, because my hair has been jacked up for more than 2 years now.

I hope this helps motivate you to share your trich issue with your husband. He loves you, you are the mother of his child and he will want to do what ever he can to help you. Telling him will be half the battle and that may help ease your pulling. You will be fine no matter what. It will take courage, but you'll find new strength in yourself for being able to say it out loud to your husband. Very best of luck to you.

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One thing that helps me stop pulling is having something to fiddle with. Apparently theres a fidget toy called a tangle that's pretty good, but I've never tried it. I like hexaflexagons (template: http://www.auntannie.com/Geometric/Flexagon/ demo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VIVIegSt81k) They're easy to make and are free (bar the cost of paper and ink) I have one that's small enough to flip with one hand that I flip in lessons and when I'm on my computer at home. Hope this helps :)