Trying to help someone with Trych

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Trying to help someone with Trych
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Hi,

While I do not have BFRB, there is someone VERY IMPORTANT in my life that I believe does. While we have been dating for the last 6 months, she hasn't told me, but I want to let her know that it doesn't change the way I feel about her, but I'm scared to bring it up. I think it's the reason that our relationship has kind of stalled where it's at. I know she's been burned by guys before. I can see that she might be afraid that I wouldn't want to go out with her anymore if I knew (which is definitely not the case).

She has told me about her big struggles with anxiety and I don't want to do anything that would cause her more stress.

Several months ago, I found out that she wears a wig. She doesn't know that though. I was first worried she might have cancer, but I noticed BFRB awareness pic on her Facebook. The pieces then seemed to fit together, but I still did not know how to tell her that I would be there for her regardless because people who suffer from it are often are embarrassed by it.

I decided that I would just try and earn her trust and wait for her to tell me. 5 months later, that hasn't seemed to happen. I mean she trusts me, but she hasn't opened up about the BFRB. I've tried to be very supportive in general and when she has made comments that I believe refer to the BFRB, I always mention to her that she is beautiful always and nothing would ever change that. Yet, she's never picked up on the idea I might know.

I don't know what to do at this point. I don't want to do anything that would upset her or make her feel uncomfortable. I'm looking for advice or suggestions so I can support her and be there for her.

Thanks for your time and all your help.