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Ruby , 20 May 2023

Will this be a part of me for the rest of my life?

I hate how much of an issue TTC has become in my life. I started pulling in the 8th grade and now I'm a sophomore in college. It's always been so difficult fitting in at school, and I guess I never wanted to admit to myself that all the weird looks I got were due to my hair and not because of other physical reasons. 

Even now, I struggle to make peace with the way I look. I shower and run shampoo on my scalp and massage it, but all I feel are bald spots and it makes me very frustrated. 

Why did I ever let it get this bad?

Finding romantic partners now is not an issue because I've mastered the art of disguising my bald spots, but it's weird explaining during intimate moments why I won't put my pony tail down or join them in the shower.

My parents are hispanic so the whole topic of mental health continues to be something that is extremely difficult to talk about with them. My dad would often make fun of my hair (hispanic people roast each other often), but later he knew that it was because I pulled it and yet he still continued to make comments that never fail to not hurt my feelings. I still live with them and they still fail to understand why I won't just stop pulling my hair.Why can't they understand that it's a daily battle that can't be solved overnight?

I'm gonna start therapy again and I really hope that it helps me out. I've felt so alone lately anr stressed out over so much going on in my life and I can't continue to hold it all in.

I don't know if people are actually as active now on this website, but comment down if you would ever wanna have a phone call or text each other about our current situations. I'm so tired of feeling like I'm alone on this issue and going to in person support groups is just not viable for me right now. Do let me know if you would be down for this.

Thank you for reading and I hope anyone coming across this is doing okay.

1 Answer
November 22, 2023


I'm truly sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing with trich. It sounds incredibly tough, especially when it affects your self-image and relationships. 

It's challenging to navigate this journey, particularly when understanding from family is lacking and cultural barriers hinder open discussions about mental health. Prioritizing connections with individuals who are willing to listen, show empathy, and offer compassion becomes crucial. If there's someone in your life with whom you can connect in this manner, consider reaching out to them. Additionally, online communities like this one, and even virtual support groups (Trichstop hosts weekly meetings), can provide added comfort and support.

Starting therapy again is a positive step toward getting the support you need. Talking to someone who understands and specializes in these struggles can make a significant difference. Remember, you're not alone in this; many others share similar experiences, even if it feels isolating.

Reaching out for support, whether online or in therapy, is a brave choice. It's important to find a safe space where you feel heard and supported. If you're comfortable, online communities or support groups might offer connections with people who truly understand what you're going through.

Finding connection and understanding in shared experiences can be incredibly healing, and your willingness to extend compassion to others navigating similar struggles is a testament to your strength. I have genuinely picked up that the bfrb community is incredibly strong and supportive towards one another.

Wishing you well on your healing journey! 

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