How to stop plucking eyelashes.

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How to stop plucking eyelashes.
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I've had problems with related things like picking at my scalp till it bleeds and then repicking those places so they never heal, and sometimes pulling hairs form my head (not often) for about 6 years. but more recently I have started plucking eyelashes. I get this overwhelming anxiety and compulsion to pluck eyelashes that look out of place etc and I get relieve once it's done. Once again I now have a huge gap in my eyelashes. I went to talk to my mum about it and her exact words were 'oh I can see that's stupid why did you do that? And then 'Jess everyone has eyelashes that look weird you just have to get over it and not so fascinated by them. I've tried therapy but it hasn't helped. I just don't know what to do I look so stupid and just want this to stop before it get worse.

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Hey!

I know what you're going through cause I've been going through it for years and years. But it's gotten worse in the last few years. And I'm the only one who knows I suffer from trich cause I've been to afraid/ashamed to tell anyone completely, even my parents. My trich started with my eyelashes and moved to brows, the ends of my hair and even arm hair. And even though sometimes I just pull and sometimes I pull according to feeling, I've noticed that looking closely in mirrors only makes it worse. And I'm not saying I've been able to do this cause I'm still pulling, but maybe trying to avoid being in front of a mirror for long periods of time?? That way you can't see the hairs out of place and have a pulling episode..... I've also noticed that if I'm doing something physical like exercising or playing something outside, I don't really even get the urge to pull. So maybe trying to spend more time just doing something physical and trying to use energy? I should try to do that more.... especially since my trich episodes usually happen when I'm sitting down doing something or just standing in front of a mirror.....

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Hey!

I know what you're going through cause I've been going through it for years and years. But it's gotten worse in the last few years. And I'm the only one who knows I suffer from trich cause I've been to afraid/ashamed to tell anyone completely, even my parents. My trich started with my eyelashes and moved to brows, the ends of my hair and even arm hair. And even though sometimes I just pull and sometimes I pull according to feeling, I've noticed that looking closely in mirrors only makes it worse. And I'm not saying I've been able to do this cause I'm still pulling, but maybe trying to avoid being in front of a mirror for long periods of time?? That way you can't see the hairs out of place and have a pulling episode..... I've also noticed that if I'm doing something physical like exercising or playing something outside, I don't really even get the urge to pull. So maybe trying to spend more time just doing something physical and trying to use energy? I should try to do that more.... especially since my trich episodes usually happen when I'm sitting down doing something or just standing in front of a mirror.....

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I've found myself pulling my eyelashes when I'm trying to stop pulling in other areas. I have pulled them so badly that I used to have to wear false eyelashes everyday for almost 1.5-2 years. I used to have crazy long, beautiful lashes. Strangers would ask me all the time if they were fake. Ever since my horrible pulling with them and having to wear fake ones for so long, they still havent grown back to what they used to be :( it's been about 5 yrs since then but I keep telling myself, one day they will be full and beautiful again. I still randomly catch myself doing it but not nearly as bad. I normally have a gap in my eyelashes like you mentioned, then I will snap out of it and talk myself out of my pulling episode before I pull them all out. The best thing I find that helps me stear clear of my eyelashes is, making sure to wash off my eye make up every night or else my eyes might get itchy and once they get itchy, it's over, I'll pull almost all of them out trying to find the "one" that's causing it. Putting a cold wash cloth over my eyes when I get the urge or itchiness. I got rid of all of the magnified mirrors in my house and I try my hardest to not stay in front of a mirror for too long. My boyfriend hides all of the tweezers and anything sharp I can use for skin picking or hair pulling, until I need them, then I am basically supervised whilr using them. I cut my nails SO short that I can't get ahold of any small hair to pull (I have to cut them about every 4 days but it's important to stay on top of keeping them short)

I hope you find something that works for you.

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I also suffer with pulling at my eyelashes and eyebrows for the past 9 years. I am a student and live alone, what I find helps me is to hold a medium sized pompom in my hands and roll it around. I don't pull the fuzz or anything, but somehow it is helpful to me. This is also good for when I am in public or in class because it is not noticeable and I don't have to be embarrassed. I also put mascara on both my eyelashes and eyebrows when I am alone and at home. It looks quite garish on my brows but since the hair is "crispy" and stuck together I am unable to pull and I then can refocus my attention on work. Maybe try that? I have found a lot of support in my boyfriend and he has been a great friend to me when I am having a difficult time, don't isolate yourself, look for someone you are close to who will be open to reaching out with you need support. When my mother found I she was upset and from what I can gather I think she blames herself for not being able to prevent my ocd and pulling. Sometimes family is not the best place to look for help when they are so tightly wound in your past, looking for a friend is my advice.