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Parental suggestions.
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Our daughter currently 11 yro has been pulling since she was approx 7. It began at the start of 3rd grade ironically the first year of our states SOL testing. At first my husband and I tried counseling and even several
counselors looking for one that could guide us. After a while we gave up and just determined it would be her life. As middle school approached we became more worried about teasing and things so we made the decision to seek help again. We have been seeing a psychiatrist and she have been taking medication to attempt to help. We had mild succes prior to the start of the school year but that quickly spiraled out of control.

As a parent to a brilliant young girl who had gorgeous eyelashes to match everything with her gorgeous self both inside and out I'm crushed. She lies about whether she's pulled or not. She's resorted to "rubbing" which then irritates the skin or mats her eyebrows together. I feel like a failure as a parent it's a stressor to our family and I feel lost and alone. Is there anyone with any suggestions????

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Hi worriedmomma...I'm worried too. My daughter started at 9 years old. She is now 15. I have sought out 4 therapists who claim they can help but honestly I think I'm a better therapist sometimes but I can't handle this. My daughter started with her lashes lied alot about it...I bought her fashion glasses which helped to determine her. Now she pulls her hair. I use extensions, hair pieces, 1000. Wigs...going broke at the moment! I would suggest getting her a box with sensory items she can fidget with or even softly rub her face with. I have cotton gloves for her to wear at night, a rubber ball with stretchy things to pull, soft cotton puffs, medallion coloring books, goal diary planner with stickers you can get at michaels and sensory stuff from the dollar store. It's hard not to get upset especially when she is upset and feels like a failure but God have I felt that way in the past as well. I hope these tools help. Try trichwebsites buy books and would strongly suggest a treatment clinic...which is my next step...think I should not have waited so long...I wish you the best!

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My daughter is 12. To make matters worse, she is an identical twin, so people are constantly comparing them. We just found a cognitive behavioral therapist for her. I bought her a fidget toy which seems to help and she uses Emla cream (basically lidocaine). Also, I am now working on getting her a service dog to interfere with the pulling action. It's not option for everyone, but there are non-profit resources if that's the obstacle. My daughter's poor head is bad...a 3 inch swath across the back from ear to ear...and now at both temples and eyelashes. She has open sores which terrify me, so I have been using peroxide and ointment twice daily.

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It's not your faults ladies. I have been suffering since 2002 and I would never blame my mom. Situations may have led to the pulling but it could never be in your power to start your child in this terrible habit.

You know it's one thing to pull your hair out and look different. It's another to feel completely different from normal people. I'm only saying that so you can know your children will feel out of place at times. I'm not really sure what my mom could have ever done to help me, although she tried. I don't know what advice I could give you but to be very understanding. It's very much a mental illness or can help lead to them although we are usually 100% intelligent. We just feel different and want to be understood although it is probably the most embarrassing thing to talk about because no one truly understands it like the ones who do it to themselves.

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Now that I think about it, keep your kids as active as possible, put them in sports/activities and make them distracted physically because when they are sitting down alone is when most vulnerable.