No eyebrows??

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Hi, I've had trich for about 4 years now. Right now I'm in eighth grade, and I think it started when I was in fourth grade. In fourth grade, I just pulled at my scalp, near the beginning of the hairline, and my parents noticed it after a few days. They kept asking if I was pulling my hair, but I just kept denying it. I don't know how I stopped, but by the end of fourth grade I had stopped pulling my hair.

I began to pull again in fifth grade, after I got diagnosed with Systemic JIA. I guess it was because of stress from having to take all the different meds. I mostly plucked my eyebrows and eyelashes. I'm not exactly sure how it started, but I remember I was just in the car one day when I realized I had a long piece of eyelash. That was odd, so I tried to remove that single hair, but just pulled out the ones next to it. I realized it felt so.. Nice!! I felt like relieved and kept pulling. Days later, I found out I had pulled out all of my lashes. I was so guilty and made myself a promise not to pull agin.

But, I broke it. The next day, I began to pull at my eyebrows and by the end of the week, I had almost no eyebrows. No one really talked about my missing lashes and brows at school although I'm pretty sure they noticed. I guess they thought it had something to do with my disease.

I kept pulling everyday after that, and in seventh grade I was diagnosed with crohns. Thai raeally stressed me out since now I have two diseases. I went on a pulling spree and soon, I had no eyebrows. Like literally. After pulling, I realized how smooth it felt and liked it but after looking in the mirror I realized how dumb I looked. I felt so guilty and just cried in shame for a while.

Now I'm pretty sure my parents noticed the hair loss from my eyebrows, but they don't say anything. I'm not sure why. Bit my friends, they noticed. One asked, Do you have eyebrows? And I was just like.. Um yah. She said it looked like I had no eyebrows. Lol.

Another time, I went to this party with my family friends, and one guy was like, you have no eyebrows in front of the whole group. It felt like a punch in the stomach. I'm pretty sure my face got very red.

I get really self conscious whenever I talk to people. I try not to make long eye contact and avoid long conversations. I still catch people staring at me like, what the heck she has no eyebrows. I try to ignore that. But it feels so bad!! I used to be so popular in third grade but after I had no eyebrows, I'm just a loser at school. Bummer.

Right now, I try my best to not pluck my brows. I somehow stopped pulling at my lashes last year, so I just need to worry about my brows. I haven't told my parents or friends I have trich. That would just destroy my pride.

So I was hoping, do anyone of you guys know how to stop pulling Eyebrows? Even for at least a month? It would really help!

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Hi there. Welcome to the forum and thank for sharing your experience with us. It sounds like you have a lot of shame around this behavior. I am sorry you are having such a hard time. It is difficult to make random suggestions on how you can stop because there are many ways that helps different people differently. What I can recommend is that you read through some of the articles on our blog that covers different treatment methods, many self-help, that you can try. 

https://www.trichstop.com/category/treatment

I also recognize how the shame of this disorder makes it hard for you to share with those you care about, but it is important that you do get emotional support. Here is an article that may help:

http://disintegratedsanity.tumblr.com/post/96037067062/how-to-bring-up-your-own-mental-health-issues-with

Best of luck!

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I have no advice for stopping but I've recently found such thing as eyebrow wigs. They seem like just the thing you are looking for. I understand the embarrassment of having no eyebrows and even when you draw them on it looking so fake if you dont have the right eyebrow makeup products to give them more depth. What almost worse than having no eyebrows is them looking painted on! So instead of spending all that time looking for just the right products ( can get expensive) then having to worry about them looking legit. These eyebrow wigs are made up of real hair, you can wear them for multiple days without them coming off, and can last if you take care of them. I hope this helps!

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